Life’s recent trials and tribulations - My Life. My ShitShow. My Story.

**I hadn’t written anything since December of 2022 (aside from what I just published today — a draft that I figured everyone could read). **

• I graduated from grad school in December of 2022 with a degree in sports administration.

• In January of 2023 I sent out invitations for my wedding.

• In February of 2023 I had my bridal shower.

• In March of 2023 I had the alterations done on my wedding dress.

• In April of 2023 I married Colin.

• In May of 2023 Colin graduated College.

• In June of 2023 Colin and I bought a house.

• In July of 2023 I started a new job.

All great things right? Well, it’s really easy to make things look great and beautiful on the outside.. even when everything on the inside is falling apart.

January 2023 - Happy New Year!!!!! Or was it?

January 2023 was the start of it all. I stopped being friends with my college roommate.

Backstory, my college roommate started dating one of Colin’s childhood friends - so when her boyfriend started being blatantly rude to me & disrespectful. Colin and I both put an end to it, which caused an uproar.

As a people pleaser you always want people to like you really bad. But have you ever met someone where no matter what you do and for whatever reason, just everything you do is wrong? That’s how I felt about my college roommate’s boyfriend. For the life of me, no matter what I did he just didn’t like me. When he’d come over I’d make snacks, I invited him to our apartment for dinners (he wouldn’t come). So, I started to refuse to not hangout with her when her boyfriend was around, if he didn’t want to be around me why should I have to be around him.She wasn’t necessary a big fan of this because this then meant that we would no longer be seeing each other as I didn’t bother to invite either of them over anymore after she excused her boyfriends actions (She acknowledged how she “didn’t know why he didn’t like me”). She was convinced that due to the nature of her boyfriend and Colin’s relationship that I should just suck it up, allow him to disrespect me and save face for everyone. But.. you can only do so much of that. By the end of January, we all were no longer friends.

With Colin and said roommates boyfriend being such good family friends - this had caused a sticky situation with our wedding plans. As we had previously invited said his whole family to the wedding.

C and I had to make the executive decision to only invite the parents from the family (whom didn’t end up coming or RSVP’ing anyways).

January was an emotionally and tiring month.

February 2023 -

February Colin and I were one step closer to being married! My mom threw us an amazing bridal shower/stock the bar.

We got our marriage license on Valentines Day!

The countdown was on for the wedding!

March 2023 -

I got fitted for my wedding dress in March! But, with the excitement and the wedding so close.. Also came the messages:

I never could understand the entitlement people feel when it comes to a wedding invitation. Weddings are expensive. Why do you feel like you deserve an invitation just because you know me?

What can you tell me about my life that you can:

• Not find on this blog

• Not find on Facebook

• Not find on instagram
  

Unfortunately, I have had many friendships end over not being invited to Colin and I’s wedding. It kills me how entitled some felt, I did not even invite my family if I was not close to them. What makes you believe that you deserve an invite? Just because you weren’t invited doesn't mean I don’t like you, I just had to stick to a budget!!!!

April 2023 -

On April 15th, 2023 I married Colin. It was the most perfect day. I could not have asked for a better day, and would live it over and over again if I could.

(I would also probably uninvite every single person who RSVP’d and didn’t show up without letting us know, Thanks!).

But ya know what’s crazy? Everyone has to have their opinion.

• My wedding wasn’t religious enough

• The officiant was gay - how dare I!!

• and to the relative, I no longer consider a relative (who was not even invited), Yes. My wedding was in a barn, that by no means makes it hick, trashy or any of the other bullshit you posted about it on the internet. So thank you, but instead of giving me grief about my wedding, get a job?
  

May 2023 -

May of 2023 was a whirlwind. Colin and I drove to Georgia to close on our house, but with some crazy wrench in our plan ended up there just for dinner due to some unforeseen circumstances. After getting dinner, we went to sleep and the next day drove BACK to Ohio so Colin could graduate from Miami University - Yay! Go Colin!

Noah also graduated in the month of May, so excited for him as he is going to college at the University of South Carolina Aiken!

The month of May also came with some sadness though, Colin and I had to say goodbye to Andrew. He recently took on a job at Vineyard Vines in Nantucket, final goodbyes post college are hard.

June 2023 -

Colin had annual training in the month of June. So per the army I was alone for a good two weeks. I spent these two weeks packing, visiting my family, and saying goodbye to co-workers and friends in Oxford. That was hard.

Colin and I also finally closed on our house!!!!! It took time, a bunch of effort and of course felt like we had to trudge through 3,000 storms but we made it! We are finally home owners!

July 2023 -

I started a new job doing communications and marketing for a business school in Augusta, Georgia. While the change is good and I am learning a lot not having anything Im familiar with - people, places, etc is hard but I am adjusting.

Things I have learned since December 2022:

Ask for help - when times are good, it’s easy to be independent and you feel strong and confident. But, sometimes it’s okay to falter, it’s okay to ask for help and a little helping hand never hurts whether you need it physically, mentally or emotionally - it’s okay to seek out guidance.

When big events happen and life changes, you really do find out who has your back. It’s crazy when the people you thought you could depend on disappoint you. There were people in the wedding that didn’t pull through, that lied about why they couldn’t show up to bridal showers, rehearsals, etc and now no longer even speak to us.

But, it’s the people who support you through the good things and all of the bad that matter most. They’re the ones you keep around.

As you get older, you find out what really matters in life. I have become unattached to social media and more or less annoyed. I hate aimlessly scrolling through social media. While, I am proud to see my friends accomplishments and hear/see about how they’re doing - I appreciate the time off my phone, the time I spend cooking dinner with Colin, renovating the house or even curling up next to him at the end of the night to watch a tv show before bed - without my phone, without the distractions is what matters. I feel at peace with that.

Nothing worth having is easy. Everything that I have overcome in the past 7 months has led me to where I am today. I am happy, I am healthy. I have overcome so many challenges. So much adversity, so many changes to get what I want, and to have what I want. It was not easy, but I am here and I am happy.